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Gift: Why do we give gifts?

Gifting is such a movement that it is a way of happiness in which both the gift giver and the recipient feel good and even those who witness the gift-giving event. It is a free or mutual gift of one person to another.

Winston Churchill is giving gift
Winston Churchill

It is the name of the shortest way to happiness. Problems that seem like impassable mountains, problems that seem like impassable roads are always overcome and solved with the tremendous power of the gift.

It dissolves the icebergs with a warm breeze and makes you drink clear water flowing from melting ice crystals.

It is also a sign of goodwill. Giving someone a gift is a tremendous power that puts aside feelings such as evil, hostility, stinginess, envy, jealousy and grudge, revealing good feelings and encouraging those around him to good, beautiful and happiness, and regard those they consider enemies as friends.

Emblazoned with love, enthusiasm, peace, affection and all positive feelings towards life.

The peaceful, humane and loving atmosphere of gifting also encompasses the family and society together with the people concerned. Therefore, it is a movement itself of small impact, of individual, familial and social usefulness.

Daughter is giving gift to her mother
A Happy Mother's Day Gift

History Of Giving

According to the predictions of the science of history, the first humans that lived in caves, provided their livelihoods and nourishment by hunting and gathering. As it is known, many activities in primitive societies arose due to necessity.

In the people living in the caves, the man brought the animal he hunted and gave it to the woman who was waiting for him at home to cook, while at the same time giving him a gift. By showing the herbs that the woman collected to her husband, she became a partner in social life, and maybe she was responding to her husband's gift. Then, by cooking the gift-worth of meat brought by her husband, and mixing the herbs that are worth the gift she collected for him; they had the pleasure of putting it on the table, in a sense, eating a meal that was kneaded with love.

Who knows, maybe when the woman was taking a wild animal that her husband had extended to her, she opened a smile on her face, looked at her husband, and her husband would be happy with the pleasure of making her happy. This shows us that it was born out of need in the early days.

The periods when people started settled and agricultural life, in a sense, was a transition period from individualism to social structure for humanity. While humanity wanted to give the surplus products to people in other places where those products were not grown, they also wanted to buy the products they did not own.

The foundations of a major movement would eventually give birth to international trade that would begin with a small trade-off. The atmosphere of trust and love formed as a result of people greeting each other with items and presenting gifts to each other when they first meet with new foreign people outside their hometown It has developed relationships, and it has also spawned trade.

In those periods when there was no money yet, exchanges were with exchange, exchange was in a sense a compulsory gift and it was reciprocal. When someone gave the other a valuable animal fur as a gift, the other gave him a sharp stone he carved in return.

In the historical process, this movement gradually shifted the gift-giving tradition from society to international relations. Thus, in this period, gift giving brought closer together with it among the nations.

For example, in Central Asia, the Ancient Turks were presenting horses to the Chinese, while the Chinese were giving the Turks silk as a gift. The atmosphere of love and trust created by this social convergence later went on to the exchange of girls, that is, marriages between the Turks and the Chinese.

In fact, cultural cohesion almost gave rise to cultural convergence. As a matter of fact, gifts made between two neighboring ruling families in many different parts of the world in a period of history turned into marriages between two families.

In the Middle Ages, the tradition of gift-giving continued in the social life, which was combined with the visits between the rulers of the two countries, became a political gift. This ceremony between the two state leaders who visited each other, which later became almost customary, will continue today. Since it is almost impossible to see an example of a situation such as not giving a gift in history, you cannot find an example for this.

What Is A Gift In Religions?

Besides the social dimension of the gift, there is also a religious aspect.

Jews believe that the holy land was gifted to them by God.

Christians believe that Jesus Christ was gifted to them by God; the basis of gift giving at Christmas is based on this.

Muslims see all the blessings in the world as a gift from Allah for them and express their gratitude to Allah.

Gift giving is a tradition in the Far East; It continues today, especially during home visits, and the gift is given with deep respect, which evokes a sacredness.

However, it is also a universal movement, because there is a culture of gift giving in all beliefs, even in non-believers and in all societies. Because, in my opinion, the most important feature of gift giving is; it is human.

Today, humanity maintains and lives this richness in the field of gift-making, as well as living and keeping the "cultural heritage of human history" in all areas. It is now seen in every society, in the life of every individual, and regardless of age and gender, without any space or time constraints.

Increasing world population, increasing social problems with the crowding of cities, deterioration in human relations and humanity's need for happiness more than ever, despite all the developing material opportunities, have increased the importance of gift-giving.

Gifting Today!

With the development of technology and opportunities, gifts have diversified. All professional groups announced one specific day, and gifts were indispensable in these meaningful days. Today, both individuals and societies have discovered very different arguments about gift giving as if they have solved the secret key to gift giving.

People have seen great results of gift giving and small touches. Gifting has often been the way to gain great spiritual feelings with a little material. The giver wants to show that he values ​​and cares for the other person. The recipient feels the joy of living with this act that makes him valuable. A life full of spirituality achieved with little labor and little material.

Some may have tried and seen that it is possible to warm the hearts and remove the roughness and to improve relations and to consolidate all the beautiful traits of human beings through gift giving.

Whether it is reciprocal or unrequited, the parties are happy as a result. The modern world will have unraveled the glazed key in gift making so that it has made a special reference to on many important and meaningful days such as Easter, Mother's Day, Father's Day, Valentine's Day, New Year's Day, Birthdays and holidays. The first rose a man gives to the girl he loves is the name of the gift. It is the name of the power that reconciles the hearts, matures the loves, unites the hearts and excites the hearts.

As Churchill said, "We live on what we receive, but we save lives with what we give."

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